Monday, 19 January 2015

#MicroblogMondays: Heresy

I shared my Early Days post with some of the friends I met many years ago who have also gone on to live life without children. One of them said to me:

“And these days I find myself being glad I haven't got kids for lots of reasons. Part of me feels that is almost heresy, but it's true!” 

She isn’t the only one who feels that way. And we know it’s not really heresy (though, feeling a bit of a rebel, I do quite like the use of “heresy” in this context). It’s simply appreciating the life we have, and being grateful for it.


17 comments:

  1. Completely understandable heresy. I may still cling to hope, but I can see that not having any does have some benefits.

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  2. I can totally understand. Both how hard it is to get to this place, and how one could enjoy this heresy. I am very grateful for my children, very VERY grateful, I do not for one moment want to experience life without them - for some reason I need to mention this. But I think I can see how you experience your life as well. I do not envy you, envy is a useless emotion, since it bring nothing positive in one's life. I am very happy to hear that you enjoy your life, and I am so happy to have found your blog. I learn so much from you. :-)

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  3. It's important to appreciate the life you have and the things you can do because you don't have children.

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  4. I dont have children now and I dont know whether I will ever have them. I live life as of today and I am happy with what I have. I am grateful for this life.

    Parul

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  5. I must agree with what your friend says. I have friends who are having a lot of trouble with teenagers, who don't like who their children are marrying, etc. I don't have to worry about any of that, for which I'm grateful.

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  6. I have to laugh at this idea of "heresy." After all, it's not that you are turning your back on the pain from the past. You are embracing the present & future and there are benefits to the life you are leading.

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  7. THIS! I was just thinking about this the other day. If these treatments dont work out then at least there will be SOME silver lining. Sometimes its nice to not have to worry about a screaming baby on a plane... they are small things but I think they matter too.

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  8. I love the use of "heresy!" I absolutely think it's wonderful to appreciate the life you have and be grateful for all the things you love now. Love it.

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  9. Totally agree! :) And not always because of some misbehaving kid... often it's parents who make me glad that I don't have to deal with THEM or live up to the impossible standards that somehow seem to be in place for parents these days. :p

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  10. Loving this heresy, too. :-) And agree with Loribeth's points, too, about the impossible standards and other parents.

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  11. I can imagine there is a whole mess of reasons one might be grateful they didn't end up having kids, even if they really wanted them one day. The reality is, there are very few quantifiable reasons to have kids and so many quantifiable reasons not to. Not a day goes by where I don't take a moment to imagine what life would be life if I hadn't wanted kids and sometimes I wish that had been me. Talk about heresy. ;)

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  12. I think the lovely thing about life is that with most choices, the unlived choices are equally good, just different.

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  13. I have a lot of friends who choose not to have kids, and some who are unable to. On the other hand I can't imagine life without mine as I love them to bits.But you said it very nicely when you said "It’s simply appreciating the life we have, and being grateful for it". Nice to meet another kiwi blogger.

    Dropping by from the microblog mondays linkup.

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  14. It's funny how life works out and that certain things that happen open opportunities for other things to open up. While I hate what infertility has done to me there are things in my life that I'm grateful for that wouldn't exist if my wife and I never experienced infertility.

    You gave me something to think and blog about. :-)

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